Tuesday, October 30, 2012

What You Want vs. What You Deserve



[Post by Cliff Harvey]

I had an enlightening, heart warming chat with a client yesterday.
She dropped by the clinic for a catch-up, for no real reason, simply to say 'hello' and fill me in on what had been going on in her life.

This client had begun seeing me some time ago for a weight loss goal.
She wanted to lose weight, but what she really deserved was to have better self-esteem, self-worth and inner strength. So softly, softly, we worked over a period of many months on a process of change. A process that incorporated physical health and well-being, and a transformation of mind-set from one focussed on achieving an extrinsically motivated goal of weight loss through starvation, deprivation and beating oneself up with excessive amounts of exercise, into a process defined by strength and the honouring and valuing of the self.
This process involved intelligent, targeted strength based exercise to challenge the body, and plenty of good quality, natural, whole and unprocessed nutrition to support the needs of the body (not starve it into shape), along with mind-body techniques to release attachment to self-limiting belief patterns.

I nearly burst into tears of joy when she told me "I came to you for weight loss, and I ended up getting so much more".
If we had solely focussed on weight loss she would have achieved what she wanted...but would still have been debilitated by the stress of worrying what others think of her, and being obsessed with 'controlling' her body image through starvation and excessive exercise.
Of course she looks great now (in fact she always did anyway!), and she achieved all of her physical goals...but it came as a result of a positive, empowering process of mind-body-spirit transformation, one in which she started walking a a path towards what she (thought she) wanted, but realised that what she deserved was so much more.

~ Blessings,
   Cliff