Wednesday, January 25, 2012

You Gots ta Have Hugs!

[Post by Cliff Harvey]

I remember a short time after moving to Vancouver, Canada in 2007 that something didn't quite feel right.
This didn't surprise me - I had moved to a new country with all that entails: new friends, colleagues, sights and sounds; and not surprisingly there was a sense of at times disconnection and loneliness. But I couldn't help but think that it was more then just those cosmetic changes.
I soon realised that one of the things I was missing - that I had lost in the process of moving cities, was all the hugs I was used to!
Anyone that knows me knows that I'm a pretty "huggy" person. I love to hug my friends, my family...in fact anyone that I'm close to (and that's a lot of people!) and there is nothing like cuddling  with a special someone. But when we move to a new place we inevitably have a period of re-establishing personal dynamics with those around us, and the intimacy we once had may not be immediately available.
This is a natural and normal consequence of finding our comfortable position again amongst others - but if we are not careful we can forget to re-introduce the things we have (temporarily) lost; not least of which is the importance of human contact.



As soon as I realised this lack of contact, and the effect it was having on my psyche (and no doubt soma) I made an intention to bring others into my personal physical space and to have  AT LEAST 1 hug per day.

I have used this (1 hug per day) exercise with clients, and many are surprised at how much effort they need to apply in order to break out of their comfortable (but ultimately self limiting) isolation and achieve just 1 hug, each and every day. They are further surprised (as was I) when they realise just how many days they go without a hug,or any meaningful contact with others.

 The benefits of physical contact for reducing stress and encouraging feelings of wellbeing are well known, and your body will thank you for making the effort to create that valuable connection with others.

I write about the value of connecting meaningfully with others in Time Rich Cash Optional: an unconventional guide to happiness as a crucial facet of creating a life of joy, passion and purpose...and there is no more meaningful way to create heart-felt connection with someone than through a beautiful, warm embrace.

Challenge: 
Have at least 1 good, firm hug EACH and EVERY day!