Friday, June 10, 2011

Forgiveness

Forgiveness is perhaps the most crucial part of the process of recovering from any trauma. 
We often have very natural feelings of blame for others as well as guilt, self-doubt and many and varied other aspects of these emotions. 

I have always believed that forgiveness is synonymous with unconditional love. 

Universal, unconditional love is that most empathetic of positions where we realise the divinity in everyone, and the ultimate kernel of goodness that resides within all, even those for whom it is mired in greed and narcissism.
Forgiveness is the action of Universal love. 

It does not excuse the poor actions of people, and we do not have to stop fighting against injustice. We need not forget that certain people are perhaps dangerous to us, but we can forgive them their trespasses, and in doing so we stop wasting our precious energy in the moment through worry and anxiety of what has been, and instead are able to be more present in the now, for what is. 

When people treat us poorly, or hurt us they are in effect withholding their love from us, and forgiving them for withholding their love is a crucial step in feeling free and released from the shackles of our past. 
I'm reminded of the quote "Holding a grudge is like letting someone live rent free in our mind", and any form of resentment, doubt about our past actions, and self loathing is also the same type of pattern. 

Most important perhaps is to forgive ourselves for our actions, and for the love we withheld from others. 
We can (and must!) learn from our past mistakes, but once we have: a) recognised where we have acted poorly and b) taken the learning from it; we then need to forgive ourselves. 
Because at the end of the day it is about giving the same love to ourselves that we give to others. They are worth it because they are aspects of the beautiful and perfect divine...and so are we. 

Honour, love and value yourself. YOU are worth it. 


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